Obese and pregnant.... can a morbidly obese girl have a safe pregnancy ?
Jan 2, 2019
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lKjHKeBFzMs

today it's gonna be a different kind of
video we're not gonna actually do a vlog
today today we're doing a sit-down video
something that has been brought to my
attention multiple times asked many
questions of and I thought what a great
time to just sit down and make a video
and answer some questions and give some
women hope that they're seeking and
searching for when it comes to wanting
to conceive a baby so New Year's is up
in with us right now can't believe it
we're already on the third it's like oh
my gosh four already three days into the
2019 like no don't and in times passing
fast but when New Year's happens a lot
of times you know families sit down and
they think about their dynamics and they
think about you know things that they
want to accomplish through the year and
a lot of times conversation that is
included in that is do we want to have a
baby
is this the year we are going to try and
me and only my husband we had this same
conversation one time and I'm gonna give
a little backlog to get you kind of
where I'm at today and we're talking
about my my pregnancies I do have a son
that is 10 almost 11 his story I will
link down below in my description that
is my adoption story but today we're
just focusing on pregnancy and obesity
so I'm gonna give a little bit of back
log of my story from my pregnancies to
my births and everything in between and
hoping that my story could not only just
amplify the reality that you can get
successfully pregnant being obese you
can carry a pregnancy to term while
obese
and also the ups and the downs and what
what I went through while being pregnant
so we're gonna start with 2009 I got
married to my beautiful and wonderful
husband and we got pregnant three days
into my marriage I was told because from
the age of 16 to 27 I had very irregular
periods I was never diagnosed with PCOS
but I had very irregular periods I would
bleed for months on end then I would
stop I wouldn't have a period for a
couple of months then I would bleed
really really heavy like emerg bleed I
went through multiple DNC's to clean out
the all my tubes and everything of
course I'm not a doctor so medical
technique I words are not gonna be today
I'm gonna use them in the terms that we
speak them anyways um so I had multiple
DNC's and we were getting to the point
where they were saying that you know we
really don't feel comfortable continuing
to give you DNC's because every time you
have a DNC there's more options that
something could happen during the
surgery of damage to your organs your
fallopian tubes your everything in
between so I knew that you know
something had to happen and I just
didn't know what but also in that sin
those same appointments I was also told
that I probably would not be able to
successfully get pregnant on my own not
because of genetics because again like I
said I well I never ever was like I
never had like research done on my body
or went through testing or anything like
that to be diagnosed with any certain
possibility of why I would never succeed
ly get pregnant but pretty much the
physicians labeled me as someone that
would be
unable to conceive with no explanation
why um and i believed that i did i
carried that for many years from the
time that i was told that and i just i
thought in the back of my mind you know
I knew this was something I always
wanted I desire to have a family and
desire to have children and that's what
led me to adopt my little boy that I
said my the story will be in the
description but we're gonna fast forward
a little bit and get to 2009 so I
married my husband and I got pregnant
like I said three days into our marriage
and it was a miracle like we didn't use
protection or anything because of course
I didn't think I could ever get pregnant
and I was like the last thing that ever
even entered my mind like I never
thought hmmm should I you know use
protection or not you know I know I was
married but circumstances you know I was
like I just didn't think it was
necessary because I was told I could
never succeed Lee get pregnant so
December 24th 2009 I took a pregnancy
test
I took it just because I had an extra
one and I was like yeah you know I have
it might as well do it wouldn't it be
amazing if I found out I was pregnant
this day and so I took the pregnancy
test and lo and behold it was positive
and I'm like oh my gosh like whoa and so
I carried him from the time I got
pregnant with him which would have been
November it was between the 20th and the
21st is kind of where we pinpointed it
could have been all the way from the
night of my wedding night my honeymoon
night but it was in between that time
and I carried him until March 24th of
2010 and that day I was rushed into the
hospital because I thought I had the flu
and um now two weeks prior to March 24th
I was walking into a school my flipper
got stuck on a door ledge and I ended up
tripping and falling and falling back on
my stomach and for some reason during
that pregnancy I fell
multiple times even the day I went into
the doctors and got the positive
pregnancy test that same exact day I
walked out of the doctor's and slipped
on ice and fell so it just happened I
and they say that that can be common
that you can lose balance when you're
pregnant
um so I had I did fall multiple times
being pregnant with him but none work of
anything that was really dangerous it
was more so just like a you know
something I could catch myself but on
this one particular day I don't know
what happened but I lost balance I
tripped and I fell directly down on my
stomach I immediately went into frantic
crying and I was you know I was not
cramping but kind of cramping but I
think it was more mental cramping
because I wanted to go directly to the
hospital to make sure everything was
okay with the baby so I went in and they
did some checking and stuff and they
said everything looked fine the sack
looked fine he looked fine as harpy was
strong still nothing looked abnormal
gave me a clearance and said you're fine
go home and rest but you should be fine
okay great now mind you the ob/gyn that
I had during this pregnancy was
absolutely 100% without a shadow of a
doubt the worst doctor anybody could
ever imagine
and come to find out after the fact
after I had him as a doctor he was being
sued multiple times for malpractice and
I believe at this point I don't even
believe he's in practice anymore
but that's beyond the point
so anyways March 24th I was rushed into
the hospital I thought I had the flu
come to find out they did an ultrasound
and my sac had ruptured and pretty much
all the amniotic fluid was gone
and his little heartbeat was pretty much
faded down to hardly anything he's so
had one but it was very very faint I
spent 14 hours of back labor in the
hospital and delivered him vaginally and
when he was born obviously he was so
little he was only 19 and a half weeks
gestation he was not even big enough to
take his first breath so but I remember
giving birth to him and they wanted to
do research on him to see what like what
caused me to lose him was it a genetic
thing was it due to like my weight like
what was it caused from and I opted not
to do that I just couldn't imagine
sending my baby off like that I just
couldn't but I did allow them to take my
placenta and go ahead and do some
research on fat so with that testing
that they did it came out that they
believe what happened is the day that I
fell on my stomach there was a little
slight sliver of eruption and it wasn't
big enough that they could see it on
scan at the day that I went into the
hospital but from that day until I lost
him I was actually leaking amniotic
fluid out
I was completely Rashed down in the
vaginal area I had called the doctor
multiple times and was like I'm itching
so bad I don't know what is going on I'm
not feeling well and he kept saying oh
it's you know it's probably a yeast
infection go get some Monistat so I did
what he told me because I assumed as a
doctor he knows what he's talking about
well two weeks later then that's when he
passed and so come to find out I was
actually leaking amniotic fluid the
entire pregnancy of from the time I fell
to the time I had him and because my
doctor did not have me come in even
though I had called him multiple times
and told him about that he could have I
don't know if there really would have
been anything that he could have done to
stop the process of my sac continuing to
erupt I think what happened happened but
at least maybe there would have been a
little bit more of understanding and I
personally wouldn't have had an
infection because not only did my
placenta get an infection and that's
what really kind of affected him the
baby is also it physically made me sick
and so then in return I was even in the
hospital longer because I was running a
fever I
I was really sick but it came out that
it was not something that was caused due
to my weight or anything of that manner
it was literally they believe it was
because of a fall and just things didn't
get taken care of quick enough but again
like I said I don't think there really
would have been something that could
have been done but still I feel that the
doctor was very excusive and very
passive because when I went in and my
weight I at that time I was 350 pounds
when I was pregnant with my first little
boy and I feel like because of my weight
and because I didn't fit in with the
statistics of medical technology and
things I feel like I was kind of brushed
off as just another patient that you
know they'll take care of but it's not
like it was a very fun process he did
not make it fun he always rode me about
my you know my weight and was very rude
about it um and so I was just like all
right you know you're the doctor that
told me I would never succeed and only
get pregnant and Here I am pregnant but
it's you know alright whatever there was
nothing I could do about it
so I had my son Malik on the 24th of
2010 so now to fast-forward a little bit
I went through my grieving process that
I had to have to go through four
miscarrying my little boy but I know in
my heart now I got the taste of what it
felt like to be pregnant and I got the
taste of feeling like kind of having a
vaginal birth even though he was so
little it's still like I I know that I
now I knew I wanted that even more than
I did when I got before I got pregnant
with him so time had passed though and
the following year I sat down with my
husband Ollie and I talked to him and
told him I said you know I said I think
I am ready to start trying for
another baby he's like what are you sure
and I'm like yeah I do feel like I am
ready for this I want this and I desire
it and I want it and at this point my
periods were back to being irregular I
was bleeding here and there I was him or
Jean at times it was just all it was bad
but that's not that did not make me lose
hope because my periods were irregular
when I got pregnant with Malik and I
didn't even have a period so I got
pregnant in November I didn't even have
a period in October and I did not know I
did have a period in October sorry I
didn't have a period in November I had
nothing and so I just know I did have a
period I'm sorry I did not have a period
in October I did not have a period in
November and then of course I did not
have a period in December so my periods
were all over the place so I knew that
that wasn't going to just 100% stop me
from being able to get pregnant because
I clearly got pregnant without even
having a period and come to find out you
can awfully and not have a period and
you cannot have a period without
ovulating didn't know that so anyways
now
I told my husband I said you know I
really want to go ahead and make an
appointment with my OBGYN my new OBGYN I
was not going back to that other doctor
and I really wanted to sit down and have
a discussion with him like what can we
do to start the process because at this
point me and Ollie had been having
unprotected sex for what seemed to be
about two and a half years I know I said
about a year and a half later but no it
was more like two and a half years later
and we have been having unprotected sex
we weren't really trying but in two and
a half years you would think if I was
gonna get pregnant I would have gotten
pregnant but I wasn't really like
checking ovulation I wasn't doing any of
that type of stuff I just was letting it
kind of do its own thing and let nature
take its course
so I decided to call making my
appointment we
and I'll never forget I went in with
such great hope that you know I was
gonna get whole you know help from a
doctor that would make my dreams come
true again so I got in there and the
doctor asked me you know you know what
are you here for and so I told him I
said you know I'm here because me and my
husband would like to start trying to
get pregnant and you know we've been
kind of trying for two and a half years
with no success I was pregnant once
before but you know unfortunately I lost
the baby and you know it came out it
wasn't because of anything of my fault
or even my body's fault it was I had an
accident and my placenta had ruptured
and he passed and so I said there you
know I don't think that there would be
any reason why I could not get pregnant
and carry a full-term baby and he sat
there and listened to my story and
listened to me make my plea basically of
why I felt that I should be able to have
help getting pregnant and he says well
he's like you know here I'm just gonna
be really honest with you - Mike all
right and he says considering your
weight now at this point I was 468
pounds
he said considering your weight um I
will never be able to help you get
pregnant and I looked at him just like
whoa that was not what I was expecting I
was like excuse me and he's like I'm
sorry but you are at no weight that I
would ever be able to help you get
pregnant
he's like it would be malpractice in my
part I'd be putting a baby at risk
because you're wanting to get pregnant
he was so fat shaming and rude I could
not believe what I was hearing like I
literally could not hear believe that my
ears were hearing this from a doctor
that I went to in hopes that he would be
there to back me up and give me the
dreams that I wanted he said you know
why don't you go first
and seek out gastric-bypass go through
the process lose 200 pounds come back to
me and then we'll talk at that very
moment I felt like he just robbed every
ounce of Hope out of me and made me feel
like so ashamed for being o4o being
overweight and desiring a baby like he
made me feel like I had no right to ask
that and how selfish of me I remember
walking out of the office that day and I
was just in tears and I just cried and I
cried and my husband held me and you
know he said I'm so sorry Amy but you
know I don't know what to say to make
you feel better because clearly that was
not what we were expecting to hear and
no it wasn't so we went home and I took
a couple of weeks off just from thinking
about the whole thing because that was
really hard and you know it sets you
back when you're being basically fat
shamed and told that how dare you think
that you have any rights to these things
because you don't fit in the healthcare
statistics of weight how dare I even
have an ounce of wanting this like I am
the worst person for wanting to be a
mother because I'm fat straightforward
so then I you know I told my husband I
said you know I said I'm not gonna
accept with this doctor same I'm gonna
take things in my own hands I'm gonna do
my own research and we're gonna figure
this out and we're gonna have a baby I
don't care what it takes
so I started googling and researching
and reading people's stories and success
stories and things and one of the things
that I will never forget that I googled
was herbal medicine to help get pregnant
and these two medicines popped up and
then you can get them from Amazon I will
actually put them in the description box
what they are they're very very cheap
actually they're not very expensive
they're all herbal so it's all a route
but they work together in a way to
stimulate because my body was not all
elating
so it helps stimulate your body to all
eight so this gave me an ounce of hope I
was just like oh my gosh maybe this is
it maybe that you know maybe if I start
taking this it will help so I ordered
the medicine I ordered ovulation tests
which the ovulation kit that I got it
was called wonderfu and it's a mixed
package so it comes with 50 ovulation
tests and in 20 pregnancy tests and I
want to say that box was like twenty
dollars in like forty nine cents or
something like that it's very cheap
again I'll drop it in the link below and
so I started taking the herbal pills the
day that they came in and I started
checking my ovulation to the following
month I was not getting any positive
ovulations
and I did that for about four or five
months and pretty much again my hopes
were kind of dropping again like oh hey
I don't know what I'm gonna do because
you know I want a baby and my weight
should not stop that
so me and my girlfriend we're talking
and she's a nurse and she was actually
getting prepared to go to Mexico to get
gastric bypass and so we were talking
and she knew that you know I really
desire to have a baby and you know she
knew the whole story of what happened
with Melek and what happened with the
doctors and the conversation and things
like that and so I we were talking and
she jokingly said oh I should just pick
you up you know some clomid when I go to
Mexico since you don't have to have a
doctor's prescription for it now for
some people don't know what Clemente is
and they've never even heard of it
clomid is a stimulant medicine that
reacts to make your body oddly sometimes
it works for women sometimes it doesn't
but the herbal pills kind of work in the
same I guess you would say in the kind
of the same direction you can't take the
herbal pills and clomid together because
actually it would work they they
counteract each other so you can't take
both at the same time and during this
time I was still taking the herbal pills
and I was like you know but we were just
joking around and stuff and I was just
like oh haha you know whatever because
you know here you have to have a doctor
prescription in order to get Clemente
it's very cheap if you do have to pay
for it over the like cash ways but you
have to have a doctor's prescription for
it so you can't just get it over the
counter so that night I was really
thinking about it and I was just like
maybe I need to take her up on her offer
you know because maybe this is gonna be
the only way that I will be able to do
this so I started doing some more
research about purchasing medicines in
Mexico and you know the different things
like that and you know the rates and how
it works and all of that and I after
doing a bunch of research and again
reading success stories and reading
stories that it didn't work um I called
her up and I was like you know why I
think I'm gonna take you up on your
offer and she said what she's like I was
joking I was like no I think I'm really
going to she's like okay she's like I'll
do it
so she bought me three months supply
which is three cycles worth and or no
actually she did six months yeah it was
six months of cycles that she bought um
and so she went to Mexico she brought it
back I started taking them so I stopped
taking the herbal pills two months
before I knew I would start taking the
clomid and I just did Google research on
like what a doctor's normal prescription
is for giving a patient clomid and
that's what I went off of basically in
order to why they make you have to be
under physicians care when you're on
clomid is it can mess with your hormones
it can it doesn't mean it will it didn't
with me but it can also they do blood
work when every cycle so after you take
your your days of worth of your cycle of
your pills they'll have you come in and
do a blood draw to see if you ovulate it
successfully and then also they have the
chances of upping your prescription if
it's not working normally they start you
at 50 milligrams and they might keep
that on you know for a couple months and
then if you don't successfully oval-8
they might bump it up a little bit more
it's just kind of a hand-in-hand they'll
they kind of figure out what they think
needs to be
with you so basically for me doing it
myself the things that I would not
receive would be the blood work to know
if I successfully ovulated and if I
needed to bump up my medication so but I
was willing to take the risk at this
point I was just like I am willing to do
anything I don't care what I have to do
and if if any woman that gets that baby
fever that can have a baby you know what
I'm talking about where you will do
anything to find a way to become a mom
and to have that baby that you're
wanting now we did not have thousands
and thousands of dollars to go through
IVF process and all of that we didn't
have it we didn't have the money because
I didn't have medical that covered
fertility to be able to even go and get
my body check to see if it was something
that you know was genetic or whatever
like we just didn't have the money for
that we did go through so while we were
waiting for the clomid to come from
Mexico I also bought a kit from
Walgreens and I will find the link and I
will put it in a description because I
don't remember the name of it but it's
for a male specimen count and we did it
in home you do it all at home you do not
have to take anything in you don't have
to touch anything like doctor wise it's
it's all at home it was like I want to
say that the kit was like $50 $49 $50
something like that and that's an
in-home semen count and so we did that
because I wanted to make sure that you
know just to double check that it had
nothing to do with my husband even
though I knew it didn't but it's just
you know again you always want to do
everything because you're just wanting a
baby and so we had him checked and
everything came out final on his part so
he was clear so she came home my friend
came home brought me the medicine I
started taking it in April yeah my first
dose was fifty milligrams and I took it
in April when I was supposed to
and make him around and I got my period
so I was like okay I didn't get pregnant
this month so we're gonna go ahead and
we're gonna do 100 milligrams so I did a
hundred milligrams this month while I
went I started out 50 but I was like I'm
not waiting a couple months and I'm not
gonna waste cuz I only have six months
worth of a shot to get pregnant so I
went ahead and bounced up to a hundred
milligrams in May and took it and June I
got a period and so I was like darn it
okay it didn't work so June I did
another hundred I didn't I didn't feel
comfortable enough to go up any higher
than that
not at least for another month so I was
like well I'll just stick at the hundred
and see what happens with that and then
we'll go from there so and during this
time I was checking my ovulations now my
ovulation tests were still coming out
negative I did not receive a positive
ovulation from any of my tests that I
was received that I had taken so that
was also very discomforting because I'm
just like oh my gosh like why am I not
ovulating so June came I took my hundred
milligram again for my cycle and then
July 10th and I wasn't close to
happening to have my period or anything
at that point because I think my period
was supposed to start like July 20th or
something like that so July 10th I
remember I had a dream and the night
prior to that such a lie 9th no July
10th uh I had July 9th I had a dream
sorry you guys I'm like cuz it's been a
couple years ago July 9th I had a dream
that I woke up and I was like I feel
pregnant like I really feel pregnant and
I don't know what it was I don't know
why but instinctly I felt like I was
pregnant and I knew I was pregnant I was
acting like I was pregnant everything I
get was weird so we went to the store
the 10th and I told my husband I told
only I said I keep saying my husband my
a nolle because some of you
I have been on my channel for a long
time and know him as Olli some maybe are
just so watching this for the first time
so let me explain that really quick my
husband's name is Ollie so you hear me
talking about Ollie it's my husband so
anyways I told Ollie I said you know why
don't we grab a couple of tests while
we're at Walmart I just would rather
have them on hand I'm not going to take
him for a couple more days but at least
we'll have them so when the time comes I
had to worry about going to the store
he's like okay whatever so we picked him
up well the morning of the 11th I woke
up and I was just like I don't know what
it was but again I was like I'm pregnant
I know I'm pregnant
I know till I know - I know I'm pregnant
so I went ahead and I took a test even
though I wasn't gonna take one for a
couple of days and I'm but I was 6
o'clock in the morning I when I took a
test and lo and behold it was positive
and it was the faintest of the faintest
like where you had to stand up and
squint your eyes and look at the Sun and
but it was positive and I was like oh my
gosh so that day we found out that I was
expecting then I went I made a doctor's
appointment immediately because of
course you know you start running all
these things in your mind like oh my
gosh what you know you had one
miscarriage you don't want another one
so I definitely made doctor's
appointment right away they got me in
the next week which was so refining to
me because it was like I felt this is a
total different doctor's office that I'm
talking about now so I got right into
the new doctor's office and oh my gosh
the doctor that I received was he was
like heaven sent for me
like literally was heaven sent he got
right on top of things had tests done
just everything never never shamed me
for being big never said oh my god what
were you thinking nothing like he
embraced me as if I was a normal human
female that was pregnant not like I was
an underlying bad statistic and
oh my gosh you're this and you're that
you know I mean he definitely did say
that you are going to be higher risk
like that was just an automatic and I
was accepting of that I wasn't you know
I didn't I never denied that my weight
would run a possibility of being high
risk or that something could happen I
never ever ever did that but I also
don't feel that it was right for any
physician at any given time to make me
feel like I am less of a person or less
worthy of because I was fat
so I went through my pregnancy really
well they tested me about a week after I
found out I was pregnant so I was very
very close into my pregnancy early in my
pregnancy excuse me and it did show that
I had gestational diabetes so I
immediately dropped like oh my god so
the now it's coming true the doctor that
told me I was gonna be at risk and that
I was gonna hurt this baby is true and
he was right there to correct all of
that and was like no first of all
gestational diabetes can run in any
pregnancy gestational diabetes doesn't
get to find because you're fat or
because you're skinny a 90 pound woman
that is pregnant can have gestational
diabetes a woman that is 900 pounds that
is pregnant could never have two
gestational diabetes gestational
diabetes is not based off of weight or
basically you know like you're you're
fat and all of that it's all ran off of
your Sugar's and all of those things so
just like a person that has diabetes I
had a grandfather that was a skeleton
and he had the worst diabetes you could
imagine and majority my entire family is
overweight and not all of us have
diabetes I don't I only had it when I
was pregnant so just because you're fat
doesn't mean that you're an unhealthy
person I've been told multiple times you
are a very healthy fat person I mean
literally I have been told that by
different doctors because they don't
have high cholesterol I don't have heart
disease I don't have diabetes I don't
have any of those things
so what makes me less of a person to get
pregnant because a doctor looks at me
and says well you don't fit on the scale
of what I think needs to be for you to
successfully have a baby and to say that
it would be malpractice on his part like
how how could he honestly have the right
to determine that so I went on insulin
right away took care of everything
managed it I lost 65 pounds during my
pregnancy I kept you know as active as I
could but I was very very scared to do
much due to my pregnancy prior I fell a
lot so I was afraid that I would fall a
lot with this pregnancy because you
always replay what happened prior but no
that never happened I never fell dear my
pregnancy with my son
Omar and I felt great I had doctor's
appointments every week they had me in
they did they started doing stress tests
about the same time as they normally do
with you know pregnant women and there
were like things that they had to do to
adjust to me um like for instance
ultrasounds you know ultrasounds were
really hard for me because when you're
big and well in my case I'm big and I
have an apron which is the stomach that
hangs on the bottom well underneath that
the skin is very very tender and
sensitive and when they would push with
the ultrasound stick on that part it
will always tore my skin always tore my
skin and I would just bleed and bleed
and bleed and so you know there was
things that we had to accommodate like
instead of having ultrasounds on my
stomach until he was out of sized that
they could start seeing him without
having to go under my tummy we did
vaginal you know ultrasounds never once
never once did they ever say you know
will this makes my job harder or you
know nothing like that and that was a
suggestion of mine you know I just asked
them could we do vaginal you know
ultrasounds until the baby is up more so
that way we are not pushing on that
bottom part totally worked
nothing was wrong with it everybody was
you know successful and I got to see my
baby every week
hearing the heartbeat there was times
when it was a little bit harder to hear
a heartbeat because you know you are
having to go through multiple layers of
fat and tissue but again my doctor never
ever ever ever made me feel like oh my
gosh you know you're just you're the
you're the problem you're the plague
because you can't hear your baby's
heartbeat
so that pregnancy went termined asleep
erfect like there was no hiccups at 32
weeks my water broke with him just out
of a clear blue 7:30 in the morning got
up to go pee come to sit back down him
Shh my water broke so my husband Rob I
rolled me in to the emergency room they
checked me they were like yep your water
broke and I was calculating at 32 weeks
gestation so they were considering that
he was gonna be very small would
probably have some breathing issues
again you know because I had gestational
diabetes they didn't know for sure what
would be the complete story with him but
they were prepared for like the worst of
the worse um I had a beautiful c-section
of course because I'm larger they did
have to tape up the bottom part of my
stomach to make it easier for the
doctors to get into my my uterus area
and my all that stuff and get the
placenta and all that good goodness out
and I they were able to give me my
epidural my back perfect
um I had no problems they had no
problems finding my spine
they had me just sit on the end of the
bed crunch my back and it was good to go
um I have my c-section was in and out
within I think it was like an hour and a
half total that was delivering him and
sewing me up we were in the NICU for 14
days but he never was put on oxygen they
actually asked me they were like are you
sure that we have your gestation date
right and I'm like that's what you all
say I'm not the provider but he never
had to go in an incubator he weighed 5
pounds 8 ounces so he was perfect little
peanut they just said they I
carried him beautifully and he was very
very healthy
he had a great set of lungs they said
that was very awesome my delivery was
spontaneous like they were just amazed I
was up walking around 24 hours later
they did have me in a I'm gonna say the
word wrong but it gave ya a Gary attic
bed I believe is how you say it DOM
probably say it wrong they didn't have
me in a special bed and that was just
more for my comfort and I'm so glad that
they did because the regular hospital
beds at the time I was a lot larger and
so I filled the bed up and so I would be
hitting the nursing station button I
would you know I there was just no
comfort there and I was squishing the
you know the mattress down a little bit
so you know I asked them do you guys
have something that's a little bit more
comfortable and sure enough they pulled
a bed right up and they changed up the
rooms and it was so nice and I was up
walking around you know 24 hours later I
was down in the NICU holding my baby you
know meeting him for truely first time I
got to hold him for a few seconds after
birth because they took him took me to
the NICU and let me hold him for a
minute um but I was up walking around I
healed within two weeks
well no about a week I was completely
100% back to normal duties like I I
didn't even feel like I had a c-section
you guys like literally I didn't even
take pain meds after my c-section my
doctor kept and my nurses kept coming in
saying Amy you've got to take pain meds
and I'm like I don't need them I'm not
hurting I don't hurt the worst part was
when I had the c-section the first time
you stand up you feel like everything is
going to come falling out because
everything was pushed up and then
gravity's pulling it back down to put it
back in in spots that is the only worst
part of the entire thing that I can
really remember other than that I didn't
have a problem I healed up so well and
my doctor with my six-week checkup
he was flabbergasted that I literally
was completely healed like he's like
everything is healed
like your even where you had your
incision is so healed up already like
whoa you really healed up well I did not
expect you to help this well with the
weight pressing down I really was a
little bit fearful of that so was i but
um no I healed up great now on to the
next story so twelve weeks later I know
actually eleven weeks later um I was
busy being a mom to my new baby and two
at the time my seven-year-old and life
was going great I was feeling great like
I said I lost 65 pounds during that
pregnancy I did not get to breastfeed it
was very hard because I had him at such
an early gestation my milk did not drop
so in return I did do pump II and I got
a little bit but not really enough to
really sustain him so I did not
breastfeed but they tried and I mean if
my milk would have come in I would have
been able to breastfeed him and I
wouldn't have had a problem just because
there's so many positions that you can
do when you're big and trying to fit a
baby in there and again being big is not
gonna stop somebody from being able to
feed their baby and all the things that
you have to do for a baby so life was
going and my cousin one day said Amy you
haven't mentioned you've had a period
and I'm like no my periods are kind of
all over the place I think it's just
from having Omar and you know my body is
kind of shifting back into its gears and
so I think that you know that's kind of
why and she's like oh okay and she's
like have you taken a pregnancy test and
I'm like oh why would I take a pregnancy
test I have an 11 week old like what are
you talking about so one day I was
standing in the kitchen I open up the
drawer to get something and I seen I had
a leftover pregnancy test from Omar when
I was pregnant when I found I was
pregnant with him and it's one of those
digital ones that tell you like how many
weeks you are and if your partner or not
so I seen it and I'm like should I just
take a pregnancy test since I already
have it I mean I might as well it's
gonna go to waste if I don't so I went
in the bathroom I took the test
I'll set it down on the counter continue
to cook dinner and then I was like oh
shoot yeah I've got a test I got a check
so I wouldn't I looked and lo and behold
you guys the blood come rushing out of
my head
it's a pregnant but and I was 2 to 3
weeks pregnant I'm like you have
seriously got to be kidding me right now
the excitement was there but the fear
flew in because I'm like oh my god I
just had a baby like 11 weeks ago I just
went through a c-section this was not
planned I did not think I would get
pregnant this fast like I mean look how
much it took for me to get pregnant with
Omar I knew sincerely I knew I would be
having to have some type of help to get
pregnant with another one and we weren't
planning to have another one for at
least probably a year and a half to two
years um so I was like oh it's just the
hormones in my body like get over it
so I called my physician and I'm like I
think I need to come in and have a crazy
test and he's like okay so he had me
come in lo and behold it was positive
and he comes in he's like okay miss Amy
he's like what's going on I'm like well
clearly we see what's been going on um
and we just laughed you know and he
never ever ever ever stated like oh my
god you shouldn't have gotten pregnant
or you just had a baby 11 weeks ago I
mean of course there are risk like that
is clearly it is a risk and you know
just having a c-section your body's not
completely healed up baby and it does
take while for your insights and your
stuff to heal but I mean clearly I'm
alive so it does happen and it's okay
it's not literally not gonna take you
out now I'm gonna tell you I am NOT a
physician do not take any of my words
for medical advice ya still need to talk
to your doctor but I'm just showing you
guys that it can happen add an OB sighs
so I jumped on board we checked my blood
sugars I didn't was not just stationed
diabetes but we did start so with her
because was my first pregnancy I
delivered early which because of the
fall was Omar I delivered early we don't
know why my water broke at 32 but it did
so for this next pregnancy we were like
you know what why don't we just do
pedestrian shots so I started production
shots from gestation 16 week to 36 weeks
I got a shot in my boot watch eeks every
week and I felt great though you guys I
really felt good I you know just because
you're fat doesn't mean you cannot get
pregnant and not feel good and not feel
beautiful I felt beautiful
my tummy you could tell it was pregnant
to a point you know but I mean as long
as you know you're pregnant and your
spouse knows you're pregnant that's all
that matters and you know it's okay and
it can happen I remember sitting and
watching shows on TLC obese and pregnant
I would watch those and just it just
gave me hope that one day maybe I would
successfully get pregnant I would watch
youtube videos of obese women
successfully getting pregnant and what
their stories and everything that was
involved in it and what happened and
what to expect and it always just gave a
little glimpse of hope and that's what I
am doing and why I'm sharing my story
today is to give hope to women out there
that feel like they have been shamed
because they are big or you know told
that basically they need to lose weight
to fit into the brackets of a healthy
weight to carry a baby you do not have
to be a hundred and twenty five pounds
to carry a baby and carry a baby
successfully and healthy you do not have
to be 500 pounds and feel like you can't
get pregnant or have your dreams stolen
away from you and told that you are less
of a person because of your weight that
you will never have a baby look at me I
am a walking prime example that you can
carry babies you can have successful
pregnancies my babies were all healthy
my daughter was born at 38 weeks eight
pounds six no eight pounds of five
ounces I had a beautiful c-section with
her I healed up with her within two
weeks I was ready to go hit the sand I
was good to go
like literally my sea
should feel amazing I was told by my a
physician after my six week Trek he told
me not now MA
not now but when I'm ready to have
another one
he totally gives me green light he said
you are amazing you have proven to me
that obese women can successfully get
pregnant can successfully carry a baby
and consensus successfully have vaginal
births c-sections and he'll amazingly
from both of those it's more so how you
take care of yourself is how your story
is gonna play out and your care provider
should never have the right to make you
feel like you are not able or worthy to
have that dream because no provider
knows the true self of yourself other
than yourself and that's why I took
things into my own hands
the day that the doctor told me I'm
sorry go get you know go get gastric
bypass first lose 700 pounds and then
come back and talk to me that day I said
no I'm not gonna go get just a keep
saying gestational I'm not gonna go get
gastric bypass I will get pregnant I
will do this and I'm going to do it
because I'm determined and look where
I'm at I have two beautiful babies a
three-year-old and a two-year-old that
will be turning four and three in less
than a month and I could not be more
happy to give the women hope that you
can get pregnant
don't lose that hope don't let anybody
ever steal your dreams away from you and
make you feel shameful for wanting a
pregnancy don't ever be shameful if you
are pregnant don't carry shame on your
shoulders let it bloom let it blossom
and be out there and announce it be
prideful for your pregnancy because you
deserve it just because you're fat just
because you're obese just because you
may feel like you're unhealthy because a
provider has told you that don't ever
allow that to be the title that you give
yourself because you have the right to
have whatever you want
as long as your heart is determined you
can do it
I hope this story helps many people out
there if you have any questions feel
free to email me my email will be down
below thank you again you guys for
listening to my story
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